I grew up being very close to my mother…and her migraines. My mother suffers from migraines every day. Even 16 years after an accident where she slipped on a patch of ice, the constant head-pain is still there. In the beginning of her struggle with migraines I felt as though I was hardly touched by them. But as I grew older, I began to understand what these migraines meant for my mother and I. I would like to stress that my mother’s migraines never negatively impacted my life. Migraines are just part of the hand we were dealt, and with that we would learn to deal with them.
The migraines my mother suffers from taught me to appreciate her strength and her perseverance. A large part of the reason my life wasn’t affected by migraine as much as it could have been is due to my mothers’ ability to cope with the constant pain she is in. My mother will never admit that she is hurting, but I can always tell. The color of her skin changes and her eyes glaze over when a migraine starts. Knowing these signs have helped me insure that she is treating her migraine immediately. I step in and help elevate the monotony of daily chores and let her rest, but I never am resentful of her migraines.
My mother is who she is today because of her migraines, she is strong, willful and relentless, gosh is she relentless. Even when the pain is at a level that is making her nauseous she is still asking “what do you kids want for dinner.” This is when I just laugh and tell her I will handle dinner.
But there have been times that weren’t as easy. With migraine come frustration, a lack of patience and a short fuse, all of which are understandable, but difficult. When mom is getting a migraine both my brother and I can tell in the tone of her voice that it’s coming. While my mom rarely loses her cool, it can make normal conversation difficult at times. If this is the worst I have to deal with when it comes to my mother’s migraines though, I will take it.
I am very lucky to have the mother that I do, and think about that every day. So while migraines are a part of my life, I am thankful that they are something that mom and I can tackle together, it’s just migraine, mom and me.
I love you,